I find that in both the personal and the professional, the gift of the fifth decade of life is found in mastering the art of surrender. No longer upset when things don't go my way. Learning to roll with the punches, and letting the pain just slide, and yes, keeping away from situations and people that cause me undue stress. What for? I no longer bark, nor bite, that's wasted energy. I let my dog do that. I choose to just walk away.
When it comes to things, people, and circumstances that I have no control of (and there are a lot!) after I've exhausted all that I can do to "fix" the situation, I just pray. Fully trusting and believing that justice comes when it's meant to, and that my God is bigger than any challenge that might come my way.
Surrender was so difficult in my younger years, but it no longer is now. I would never trade my 50s for my angst ridden 40s. Though it was from that turbulent decade just passed where I learned the most important lessons on courage, forgiveness, patience, kindness, love, and letting go.
It's quieter now, more peaceful, and joy filled.
In your 50s you become brave enough to stand your ground, and speak your mind, but always with kindness. You know how to compromise but you no longer settle. You laugh at yourself, a lot.
In this decade you realize you only have, God willing, an X number of decades left.
So you waste no time on being petty, greedy, or unkind. You simplify and begin releasing attachments which enable you to travel
lighter. Now more than ever, you realize that when you go, you take nothing with you. That nothing is ever guaranteed, only the present moment, and nothing more.
What then do you leave behind?
It's the intangibles, like words of wisdom, moments shared with the people you love, and memories, lots of them, hopefully good ones. So in your 50s you become a master in the art of embracing each moment fully and always with love. The rest, you surrender. You swim with the tide, never against it, secure in the knowledge that just when you are about to give up, is when the tide will turn. Always, without fail. And in the end, just as it has always been, all shall be well once more.